Below is a rant of a friend of mine. As much as I love her, I kind of wish that she had a sibling who was the total opposite of her, for I have heard enough sermons by her father about the wonderful things that she has done. Now I know that she isn't as good as her parents think that she is, but she is a wonderful person that I think greatly of.
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Ok, so this is going to be a bit of a rant.
I recently came across a discussion regarding homosexuality online. It started out pleasantly enough, then degraded a bit into “sin” talk. I am always disturbed by people who profess to be Christians and yet they 'hate' those that don't live the same lifestyle.
I was raised by Christian parents, in fact my father is a priest. I was taught that “alternative lifestyles” (a term I didn't hear until I was older), were fine and dandy providing they weren't hurtful to anyone. That just because I didn't live that way didn't make it wrong, just different.
My mother had many gay friends, I had friends with one parent, friends with gay/lesbian parents, friends who lived with their grandparents, friends who lived in foster care, friends who were only children, the youngest child, the oldest, the middle, lived in blended families, some had dogs, some cats, some pet snakes. I had friends who were white, black, Indian, Asian, mixed with everything. I had friends who were on welfare, some were rich, middle class, or just plain poor. I grew up with legal immigrants, illegal immigrants, people whose family came on the Mayflower, and some who came to the USA when they were 15 or older, some were adopted. Let's see, Jewish friends, Catholic, Episcopal, Methodist, Muslim, Wiccan, Agnostic, Atheist, Lutheran, Greek Orthodox, etc……..I could go on. Here's what I don't understand. If I grew up with all of these people, all of these lifestyles, differences, both physical, emotional, economic…..which is the “alternative” lifestyle?!?
I mean seriously….If I look back at my childhood, my parents, and ONE other family I grew up with were the only ones with parents who were married, had been married prior to our conception and birth, and who were our natural parents. <—-This was the "alternative" to everyone and everything I saw around me. I was the freak, I was the weird one, I still am.
So why in society is that the family dynamic/life dynamic/love dynamic/sex dynamic that everyone feels is “normal and okay”? Can someone explain it to me?
Oh, wait I know…..the bible says so, right?!? And we are a bible loving country in the good old USA, right?!?
Don't get me wrong, I love the bible, it's teaching, and stories, but really?!? That's the reasoning? Doesn't it also say not to eat pork? But on T.V. it says pork is the other white meat. Every Christian church function I've gone to has pork products. Doesn't the bible also say to rest on the Sabbath? But come on all the best sales are on the weekends! Hmmm, what else does the bible say to do that we as “Christians” don't follow. Why is it that we get to pick and choose what we want to believe in the bible, then we point to it as our moral compass, when we as a people, religious group, don't follow all of it's tenants?
But then it also says to love our neighbor, to turn the other cheek, and to do unto others…..but then we often choose to disregard those teachings too. Why do we choose the negative to live by rather than the positive? How can a Christian person say, “I hate the sin but love the sinner”, there should be no hate.
How can you hate someone for loving someone else?!? Shouldn't we embrace any love? Shouldn't we celebrate positive feelings in this world? I just don't understand how you can hate/dislike someone for who they have sex with. Why? I want someone to explain this to me without the excuse of “because the bible says so”. The bible says a LOT of things that you don't follow, how did you come to the conclusion that THAT particular issue is the one you should grab onto?
Personally, if you love someone, and that someone loves you back, the RIGHT ON! GOOD FOR YOU! Why is that my business or my concern?
I see things day in and day out at my job that baffle the mind and would assault the sensibilities of anyone in the “general public”. Then I go home, surf the net, watch t.v. try to escape, and what do I see? The “normal” people, the “Christian” people who are bagging on others, spreading hatred and discontent. People who are trying to divide, who think their way is the only way, who say they are Americans and Christians, yet they want everyone to live their way, because obviously that is the “correct” way.
It's getting to the point that I go to work to escape from the “real world”. Because at least there, I know who I'm dealing with, I know what I'm getting. And the people I work with know that they aren't perfect, know that there are different ways of living that are good, and just. Don't hate me because I'm different than they are.